X-H kidnapped kids, fled state, and has abandoned them at my parents...

Location: Alaska to Idaho? (For short read I'll star 🔹, quick notes cause this shit is LLLOONGG)

Desperately need help, ANY legal advice. Alaska court system has had the divorce/custody open for over 7 months and still has not made ruling...

Originated in Alaska, wondering if I'd have a better outcome switching states? (Down to Idaho)

Part of the problem is; there is little to no help for 'family' court issue up here in Alaska, unless you sever an arm and a leg for attorney fees. Last time I checked, I was quoted at 50k to start...and then he turned me down outright because of my....'situation'. As an average poor (litterly left with .16 cents in the bank, when X left) person, we have a legal help line to call, where they tell you the documents to file....and that's it. I've filed everything I can. And have gotten no where.

Does anyone know if 🔹Idaho has better legal help for people like me? (And by that, I mean poor)

Now before you all say, "Get job and fight like anyone else"- I gotcha. That's the goal.

However this case is FAR from cut and dry ... hang in here ..grab some Fu¢xing popcorn and buckle up. (ALL REAL-Asking for REAL ADVICE)

Married nearly a Decade- lived in Idaho before coming up to Alaska. Married life was unhealthy. SERIOUS Isolation, no phones or vehicles as a regular norm...meaning no help for emergencies, AND trust me, they happened. It was regular for X to not pay rent....For YEARS. Don't think we even ever had auto insurance....after we initially got married, I crashed my car, and I was simply never replaced. One car household with him working long distance away from home regularly... Trying to show the background correctly. 🔹 Neglect. To make a long story short- SO many aspects of neglect.

We moved to Alaska- cause he didn't pay rent where we lived and they finally had enough- I was a stay at home mom, no transportation. I wasn't...don't know the right wording, but, 'allowed' to work. When It came up- it went like this, 'he's a man, and by logic, make more than me, so why waste time for something when it won't be enough?'

Alaska- he didn't pay rent here either. None of the places we lived. He'd pay enough to get in...then refuse work. Or 'have an accident'. He got comfortable living off unemployment, the food bank, and people at church who would clothes our kids. Kids- 5 of them.

🔹I had an affair, told him I wanted out(divorced). Not to be in a relationship with the affair partner-i just saw life was shit, and I couldn't continue to live that way. He wanted to work on things- I tried. But knew it wasn't a winning battle. 2 years went by...why so long? He threatened harm to himself, our family, and what I really took seriously- the affair partner. Which I had every right to believe in his threats- 🔹 as he threatened this man and his son with a gun, and did eventually (long after finding out about the affair) burn the man's house down, even killing his cat. Got to the point I was seriously suicidal. The cloud I lived under, the guilt of harming others because of my infidelity ate me alive. I became serious about leaving, trying to talk about co-parenting plans and the sort with him. We still lived together. I homeschooled our kids, had no money. My mom's 60th Birthday.....shared cell phone; mine kept disappearing-( I thought my 'mom brain' kept me loosing them, he later admitted to taking them all and still having them for 'evidence of my affairs') anywho...I ask for the phone to call my mom, again, her Birthday. After some arguing he gave it to me..he asks why I don't respect him more, and I flip him off, saying "there's his respect". My mom's a two or three call lady, you know, gotta call a few times before they pick up. I call, nothing..I'm headed to the back of the house/out room to call again. Get in. Shut and lock door. Start to call again. He's down the hall, pounding on the door for the phone, demanding I give it back. Now let's be clear ....I've run out of the house, mid winter with no shoes or pants on trying to get away from him in the past. Troopers were called and all they did was drop me back off at home with him, saying, "if he hasn't touched you, I can't take you to the shelter" but informing me, the phone was married property. Good to know!! So i this case, I unlocked the door(dumb on my part, I didn't want damage to property-turns out whoever does more damage goes to jail) should've let him break the door down, instead I opened it and tried to make my way to the living room(keep in mind- it's done called my Mama, phone running time) he starts trying get the phone from my hands, I've shoed horses and been a butcher for years, you ain't prying shit outta my hands. Sorry. At one point I was huddled in the corner (I'm shorter, 5'4"- to his 6'3") and he's on top of my back reaching around to my front for the phone- heres where I did it- I my right hand over my should and behind my head to push him off my back. Ripped the collar of his old catapiller work shirt. JUST the collar. HE in turn, ripped it the rest of the way like some stupid hulk move, and flung it in the dirty laundry. Open handed hitting and grabbing turned into shoving and hair pulling by the time I got to the kitchen bar/living room area ... Keep in mind, Ive got both hands holding this phone to my chest like it's my last resort to live. At this point, he realized he wasn't getting the phone, puts his shoes on, yells some BS and leaves. ...I look down to ask if my mom's there..turns out she once again didn't answer....but it WAS caught on her voicemail!!

Turns out, he went to the troopers station. Told them I beat and scratched him...his chest was covered in crisscross scratches and his face was red...I can't speculate on that. I just know I didn't touch him in those ways. Not my hands.

HOWEVER, I got charged with DV 🔹 (the ripped shirt) and was jailed. The troopers lost the immediate pictures I took on the phone of the marks(I just looked red like I'd been working out) they didn't find the chunk of hair he pulled out, that I put up in the bathroom.

Anyway.....🔹 DV even when its been dropped and dismissed (because we went to trial, and it WAS) any corporate job....from walmart to... anything that does background checks...gets a blanket, 'Unhirable' flag and that immediately stops the process. I've gotten seasonal work as a butcher, cause they don't care 🤣 which I find absolutely hilarious...I can weild knives, but can't stock shelves ..

🔹AFTER the arrest. X used the fact that I was barred to the state- then FLED (I say that, cause troopers had a glass warrent and were wanting to bring him in, and he grew suspicious) with ALL 5 of my kids, even though the oldest isn't his. He had filed for divorce(Alaska doesn't matter who files first) but at the moment to flew out of state, the courts hadn't processed the paperwork...and he hit the perfect window to claim, "They are going on vacation" and then obviously never came back.

He left me being evicted, with only 16. Cents in the bank account. Ended up living in my car(which he'd call and report as stolen even though it was married property) with 4extra large dogs.

He moved into a 5th wheel, on his families property. Got a young GF to watch the kids..🔹...First year he had them, NO SCHOOL....!! Got them enrolled this year, 3 out of the 5 are school age.

We 🔹DO have a temporary parenting plan that says we co-parent, but he's got primary custody- I try to file, as he breaks it, but the courts have wrote back, saying, my time to submit evidence is over..So how I'm supposed to address these constant breeches of the plan has me lost. Again, I've filed any and everything to no avail here

His GF left him, he hasn't worked in months, SOOO...🔹 he ended up pulling the kids out of school, and moving them to Idaho to my parents house, cause apparently he needs help with child care even if he's not working(the idea is that eventually he'll get the call)

We had agreed, 🔹 like last year, I'd fly down on Christmas to see the kids ...at this point it's been nearly a year since I've seen them.

Day after Thanksgiving,🔹 he called and told me I'd need to cancel my return flight; that he's leaving the kids at my parents house, and I'd need to 'sacrifice' my life in Alaska to do my duty. (BTW- I've been fighting for my kids to come home- I've got a cabin and property now, multiple rigs and a food truck I run) But he REFUSES to let the kids come up here. He's made it clear, no court order matters to him; over his dead body, will his kids come back up to Alaska.

🔹 I have ZERO issues dropping everything and going down. They need to finish the school year out where they are. He's already uprooted them once. He said it'd be easier for him and his dog to find a job and housing(sugar mama) without the kids....🔹 albeit- he's made it CLEAR this is on his terms and ONLY temporary till he gets himself housing...

So advice?! Humor??! Criticisms?!

SO SORRY FOR THE LENGH OF THIS....BUT I FIGURED MORE DETAILS ARE BETTER THAN LESS..?? MAYBE I'm wrong here ...but it's all I got ..so much to unravel and understand about the situation..

🔹So again - would it benifit to switch states with the court case- would Idaho have more avenues for possible help??

Anyone got a story to match?! I can't be the only one out here ....