Feeling a different gender depending on hood
I've been thinking more and more about my pup head space and the roles I feel while wearing different hoods. It's been an interesting self reflection, because I've realized depending on which hood I wear my attitude feels different. My examples would be that the hood that I've worn the most from Mr.S leather, I feel more free and expressive of myself, more playful but also submissive. When I wear my MistrBear hood, I feel a bit more assertive and confident (it could be the hat that comes with the hood that makes me feel this way, it does give me classic millineal prep/Frat vibes).
With this self reflection I've decided to do a mental exercise that I do for myself every once in a while, which is just think of "What does (specific gender) means to me, and do I see myself in that role, and what makes me confident that I am or am not that said gender". Well a realization has hit that depending on the hood the scales slide quite a bit!
I think it's been an interesting and eye opening experience, and I was wondering if anyone else has felt that way.
I want to add, when I am out of my pup space, I feel comfortable saying that I identify as a cis man and I'm very comfortable acknowledging it. It's the same with my MistrBear hood, in fact I feel more masculine wearing it. When it comes to my Mrs hood though, I've realized I feel closer to NB, and I have less care on my looks or clothes that I wear and that I want more fluidity when I wear that hood.
Posted Dec 7, 2025, 12:47 PM UTC