Our wedding was supposed to be on 12/4/26. I’m losing my mind. Please help.

My fiancé and I have been together for almost 9 years. Engaged since 2022. Our plan was to get married next December in the Orlando area. Decent budget provided by my parents, but I’ve also been saving in a separate account just for our wedding and don’t really want to touch much of what my parents have given us. I figured we could use it for other things, like a down payment on a house.

Fiancé hasn’t really been involved in the planning, and I discovered he hasn’t even told his parents much of anything that’s been going on, much to my frustration and the frustration of his parents.

In August, I found a restaurant venue in downtown Orlando, for $3,600. That includes 5 hours for the event, equipment for music, open beer and wine bar, family style lunch for 50 people and 20% gratuities and tax. I toured the venue while he was at work (I work 7 days a week so it’s hard to actually get a day off between my two jobs, much less both of us getting off together) called him, took pictures, sent him video, chatted with management on speaker, etc. he told me to go for it. I plunked down the $1500 deposit. We had a date. I took him there a few days later and loved the food and decor.

Three weeks after that, he dropped the bombshell that he didn’t actually want that venue, that everything was happening too quickly and that we had “plenty of time” to tour more venues. He thinks the price of our venue is “took good to be true.” He’s worried about secret hidden costs. He’s worried about getting married in the tourist district around Christmas time. He also suggested getting married at the courthouse, which I’ve told him I don’t want.

I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do anymore. I haven’t cancelled the venue because I can’t bring myself to do that, and he won’t do it, even after I asked him to call the restaurant himself and do it. We’re back to the drawing board, and once again, I feel like I’m planning this wedding alone. Of course, I’m finding nothing along the lines of the deal that I got.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. Wedding planning is hard yes, but it’s not supposed to be THIS hard.