31 [M4F] #Germany #Central Europe - Looking for a partner who happens to submit

First and foremost, thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I’m in search of someone who, yes, is a submissive, but also my equal in all other regards. Someone who I can lift up and who will bring out the best traits in me.

Let’s start with the basics: I’m 31, from Germany and 1.74m (or 5.7ft). I’m Caucasian, have dark hair and eyes, have a trimmed beard and an average body type. I’m more than willing to provide a picture of myself right away, because physical attraction is a factor, but also because I think it helps with trust to know who exactly you are talking to.

I combine a few maybe old-fashioned traits with a modern world view. In essence, I believe in small gestures like walking on the street facing side of the sidewalk or opening doors, but also that you should have your own ambitions and goals and are more than a possession.

It’s important to me that you have your own life and would never be truly depended on me. I love to be a provider and protector. But if you can’t fend for yourself, submission because difficult for me to accept as you somewhat loose the ability to say no. And this concept I find abhorrent.

I’d like to think that I’m an intelligent and well-educated man. Curiosity is something I value, both in myself and others. In general, the drive to improve is important to me. I’m at my best when I can help someone overcome adversities or grow and in turn when someone gives me even more reason to do the same.

For that I need someone who can meet me on eye level and who can be open with their wishes and feelings without feeling bad for asking or bringing something up. In my circle of friends, I have a bit of a reputation to provide a space where people can just be themselves. Mostly because I don’t judge people for their emotions or thoughts. I’m no good with small talk and prefer more open and personal topics.

In terms of interests, I have a few hobbies that are more on the nerdy side, like pen and paper rpgs or simulation and strategy games, but I also enjoy cooking, the occasional hike and I used to do historical fencing. The later I want to pick up again when I move to a place that offers a club for it.

As to me as a dom, well, that’s a bit more complicated to put into words. I’ve been acting as a mentor for about 10 years. In my closet is a rather extensive collection of toys and rope. I put in a lot of effort to understand the wishes and desires of my partner before any of this comes out, though, and then adapt to a certain point. I get the most joy out of seeing my partner having intense emotions and sensations. I have experience with bondage, sensory play, the lighter forms of impact play, the classical discipline aspects like rules and punishments, predicaments, pet play and the kinder forms of humiliation, like body writing. There is more to list here, but we can get into the details later. Point is none of it is a must for me. Next to mentor I was labeled as caregiver, rigger and pleasure dom.

As for my no-gos: I really don’t react well to the more brutal forms of play, be that with knifes or scat. I don’t aim to leave marks and am by no stretch a sadist. The thing I read most commonly here that I don’t enjoy is age regression. I don’t fault people who are into it, but it’s really not for me.

One last thing: while I’m open to talk about bdsm right way, I won’t be jumping into play with you until I’ve got a good understanding on who you are as a person and what you actually need and look for.

If all of this sounds good to you, please reach out and we can get to know each other.