Finding Interest

Hey I need some help. I am a guy out of college that is working full time and currently just focusing on that. At the same time, I really want a relationship but hate all the things that lead up to it. I don’t like flirting or pretend small talk and I am not good at creating chemistry with new people, I don’t have much dating history and have been only in a few short term relationships years ago. I can talk to women but I usually don’t initiate or have much of a desire to start one with girls I don’t know. How can I start getting into a different mindset where I can start going out on date and getting interest from others?