My boyfriend (31M) kinda weirds me out (20F) next move?
I started dating this guy because he was so bold and upfront. Our first night we spoke he asked for my number. we had coffee a few times and I would leave the dates feeling like the conversations were extreme but exciting. He made me feel special, he talked passionately about religion, he looked at me like I was something perfect. The s*x was extremely good, addicting even. And the way he treats me when we’re alone is to die for. Well it’s been a month and things are kinda weird. When he met my friends I was humiliated by how alien he acted and how little social skills he had. He’s accidentally makes himself a scene. He’s weirdly mean when I don’t do my homework- and he insults me, like he’s trying to parent me. ( notice age gap). He has something negative to say about 2/3rds of people. He thinks he has really good intuition and that he’s an empath and will use it to talk shit about anybody. He does gaslight, he’ll pretend he doesn’t remember saying something. Something that really disturbed me, is the other day I told him he tried to kiss me on our first date, and he said he didn’t remember doing that. ( it was only like a month ago) i remember every beat of the evening… how do you not remember that? He’s love bombing and acting like I’m the one he wants to marry, and he either talks about me like I’m god or diminishes my feelings all together. He says he doesn’t want to change me but gets heated when I tell him I don’t believe in god. I burned him a cd as an early Christmas gift and he literally didn’t even react. Did not care. Forgot I gave it to him. He told me to give up the dream of being a musician because it wasn’t going anywhere. He’s already yelled at me twice. The thing is, I’m set to stay with him for a few weeks and it’s set in stone. No idea what to do right now.
Posted Dec 7, 2025, 10:43 PM UTC