24NB dating women for the first time

Need Advice :snoo_thoughtful:

I've known I was queer since I was a teenager, but growing up in a religious household didn't allow me to really explore myself. Now that I've moved away from home and found my community of queer friends in a new city, I decided to try dating women/non-binary people. (I have dated men in the past, but those didn't go super well lol)

So far, it's been going... okay? Nowadays, I've been seeing two different people. The first person is B, who I've been seeing for 2 months. B is really into me, which is low-key a lot for me to handle since I've never experienced something like that before. We also have chemistry, physically and conversationally, and have similar interests and values. At the same time, though, she's been low-key giving me mixed signals. For example, she said I'm too busy to see her, but she also likes that I'm keeping busy. She also messages me about her anxieties/family and work stuff without any prior warning. I think we still vibe well overall, but those are just some observations.

The second person is C. She's more chill, and we've been taking it pretty slow. I've also been talking to her for about 3 months. We text pretty regularly and haven't gone on many dates (our schedules don't align too often), but whenever we do go on dates, it feels more casual and fun. We also have a lot in common interest-wise and have similar values, and we have fun conversations, too. We haven't gotten deep aside from discussing intentions and some family stuff, which is something I want, but I also understand she doesn't want to at this point of getting to know each other. We decided to keep things more friendly than romantic for the time being, and I think after taking that romantic pressure off, I feel like it's going better and we have the chance to build a more genuine connection.

I'm still going to continue seeing them both, but at this point, I feel like I should focus more on one person now? Or should I give more time to each of them before I decide? Or should I move on to seeing other people? Idk, someone pls help this baby sapphic ;-;

Posted Dec 7, 2025, 10:49 PM UTC

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