Roommate asked boyfriend to use a different bathroom why did it hit me so hard?

I’m blind and live in a campus apartment with the same roommates for 3 years. My boyfriend who is visually impaired, also lives on campus, but his roommates are strangers to us, so he has basically stayed with me this whole time. He’s always respectful, quiet, and helps me when I have trouble with more visual stuff.

Recently, one of my roommates stopped him (while I wasn’t home) and asked if he could use a different bathroom in the building if he needs more than 15 minutes in the morning because it conflicts with her schedule.

I completely understand her request shared bathrooms are tricky and mornings are busy. I’m not mad at her for asking. But ever since then, I suddenly feel uncomfortable in my own bathroom. I even rushed myself while using it today, because it now feels like we’re an inconvenience which I never felt before.

I think this reaction might be connected to a lot of things I’ve been quietly dealing with:

•I rely on communication from others because I can’t see hazards • Last year the bottom of the sink was moldy good thing my boyfriend saw it before I accidentally touched it. • The same roommate who made the bathroom request had a shower bag full of mold, and another roommate threw it out. • Earlier this year, the bathroom flooded a soaked shower rug was left in the tub. • one of there dads, showered without knowing the rug was there, the floor got even worse. • My boyfriend and I came home late to a soaking wet bathroom floor, and no one warned us. • We cleaned up the water ourselves, and only after we asked did they explain what happened. • They left a Christmas tree partly blocking the path to the rooms/bathroom, I kept running into it every time I walked by. • I always wash my dishes right away but others leave theirs stacked for days and I never say anything. • When furniture has been moved before, I wasn’t told which changes how I navigate the space safely.

So it’s confusing that the first and only time someone directly speaks up about a shared-space issue it’s about my boyfriend, who has basically lived here for years.

I don’t expect them to think about accessibility constantly I get that most people don’t unless it affects them. But safety communication would help a lot.

Logically: she is valid to want bathroom access during her routine. Emotionally: it made me feel like we went from being part of the home to being tolerated.

So I’m trying to figure out:

• Is this kind of reaction normal when there has been a build-up of feeling overlooked? • Am I finally reacting because I ignored too many things in the past for the sake of peace? • How do I talk about boundaries without making the apartment environment tense?

Not looking for a fight, I just want to understand why this hurt me more than I expected and how to feel comfortable again in my own space.