Being a fan of basically every girl group is such a pain

I've been a fan for seven years, I am a casual listener of essentially every girl group ever, from 1st-5th gen and extremely popular to super level nugu. I stan tons of girl groups and am a fan of almost all of them with some exceptions (however I don't anti any groups). And gosh it's a nightmare finding moots online because someone will like a group I like but then go and attack another group I like.. I particularly find this to be an issue with Blackpink/Twice, Le sserafim/Gfriend, Itzy/aespa, Illit/Babymonster, I've even encountered beef between fans of S.E.S and Fin.K.L.. There's definitely valid criticisms to be had about essentially every group I've listed but it always just leads to fan wars and hate and it's so unbelievably annoying. This is almost never an issue in real life and only online, someone I know irl is a Staybit which would drive people on tiktok up the wall. The funny thing is these groups members are almost always on good terms as well? The amount of people I've had to unfollow because of this is a nightmare though, why can't we just focus on our favs?