Am I overreacting?

So I’ve been with my kids mother a long time her 32 me 38 and there has been hiccups and infidelity and I’ve always wanted to put the “family” first and have been able to get over stuff. Yeah I know should have left but clearly have childhood trauma and really just never wanted to not be a part of my kids everyday life basically don’t want to be a weekend dad. Her idea was let’s share locations and that would bring peace of mind and build trust. When we argue she decides to not share locations and obviously I question it. That turns into a fight then I’m the bad guy for even looking at the location. Today it happened again there was a petty argument and then bam location off when I call her she laughs at me tells me it was a test and now she’s just not going to put it back on. I explained it was her idea to build trust I clearly would think weird stuff is going on if you just turn it off cause you’re mad…. I told her I can’t keep playing games or being tested that we’re both to old for this so stop playing share locations again and let’s move forward to find couples counseling… I was told no and I’m a narcissist and I should blindly trust her even though all the stuff I’ve chose to forgive her for. I said this isn’t going to work anymore and I’ll try to figure out a way to leave or find travel work and I’ll just figure out this new chapter. Now she says she wants to fix things but no more sharing location “it was her idea to build trust” am I over reacting or is this gas light? I’m confused and I’m told by her I’m so horrible all the time I don’t know if my feelings are actually wrong here….. any advice?