My F29 partner M32 have some issues. Curious?

So we have been together over 4 years and have 2 kids. My problem is a large number of issues. From infidelity (early 2 years of relationship) to lack of financial stability and lack of balancing household chores.Before said individual I was pretty financially stable! Now since I stay home with the kids it’s been a financial nightmare which I cannot tolerate anymore and started making my own money and managing. However the house. He always does the dishes but acts like it’s the biggest achievement and will leave his clothes all over the house, let the bathroom trash pile up unless I take it out (I left it for 4 days to see if he would toss it and nope just kept adding to it). He hasn’t done his own laundry in a year. He also has never bought me jewelry or a ring despíte calling me his “wife”. His mom and aunt got me real jewelery before he has and it’s been over 4 years. He wants to pursue a new career but every other business he has burned bridges due to lack of communication or lack of action. Verses I am very big about if you say you are gonna do it, do it. Period. Or be honest. It’s just a disaster. There is so much more but like jeez. I want to stay for the kids and I love him but can’t handle the bare minimum anymore. He makes it out like he is doing all he can but I’ve helped start and create lucrative income sources and he just crashes them due to lack of communication, consistency, and fall through. I am just so tired. Our kids deserve so much more!