AIO: Guy I’m dating suddenly wants to be celibate which turns me off…

So I (22F) have been talking to this guy (23M) I met on bumble for 2 months. He’s smart, has a great job, and a super driven mindset. We’re both looking for long-term relationships so it was a good match. The only thing about him that I’ve struggled with is how much he yaps. From our first conversation, he would yap and yap about himself or nerdy random stuff like how great Amazon’s business is. He’s also super into self improvement/enhancement so he’ll talk on and on abt that. I’m an introvert and prefer to listen to people so I didn’t mind it at first. But then I quickly began to feel worn out hearing every opinion he had. He’d also never ask me questions about myself but would wait for me to engage him so he could talk more. Or he’ll ask me questions and wait for me to be like “what about you?” so he can yap more. I’m giving this background to show that we’re not a match made in heaven. But I like him enough to still be interested on some level.

Yesterday he took me out as we hadn’t seen each other in about a week and a half. He took me to this ice cream place which was the first place we’d met. Honestly I thought he was about to ask me to be his gf bc he started off with asking me how I’ve felt about our 2 months together which I told him I’d had a good time. He then asked in the event that I ever wanted to end things with him, how would I do it? I thought it was a weird question but said I’d just be straightforward. He then finally dropped the bomb: that he wanted to be celibate.

Now this conversation wasn’t new bc the first time we almost hooked up (which he initiated), he paused and then went on a whole rant abt how he wants to actually abstain from sex and how humans don’t inherently need sex and he wants to prove it by abstaining blah blah blah. In my head I’m like, are we fucking or not?😀 We eventually did start sleeping with each other - however, whenever we did, he’d finish in 10 seconds and then say he was tired. He would make absolutely zero effort to make sure I finished so I could tell he was not into it. So Im not surprised with him bringing up celibacy again.

What he essentially said this time was he did some thinking and wants to gain more discipline and self-control by cutting out sex. He explained to me why it was necessary for an hour and half and why it’s the lack of discipline around sex that causes men to cheat in marriages. He made it seem like this a really good thing for him to do. It’s funny bc most times we had sex, he initiated it lol.

I told him I would get back to him on how I feel and honestly thought I would end up telling him it was fine if we abstain. But we’re also not even in a relationship so I don’t know if he deserves that commitment from me. Would you guys go celibate for someone you just met? Do you have to be sure in your compatibility with someone to agree to celibacy? I really wish he put celibacy on his bumble profile to avoid this mess. I think my fear of letting him go is that idk if I’ll meet someone else. I’m alone in a big city and while I have a great career and ambitions etc, I’m scared to end up alone. Can’t tell if I’m reading the whole situation wrong and overreacting by thinking it’s time to call it quits.

TLDR: Guy I’ve been seeing for 2 months asked told me he wants to be celibate. I feel blindsided and don’t know if he deserves this commitment from me since we’re not dating. I also don’t feel we are a complete personality match. Am I overreacting by taking his celibacy very seriously?