Found messages my (F25) bf (M25) sent to chat gpt complaining about our relationship

Hi I’ve been happy with my (F25) relationship with my boyfriend (M25) I thought everything was going great honestly we have been together 4 months. He is sick today and stayed home from work, he asked me to go on his phone and put up his shift for tomorrow to see if someone would pick it up, he fell asleep after he asked me to and I naturally went through his phone.

I found no messages of him cheating but instead I found messages of him with chat gpt basically saying how he feels like I add no value in his life and his life was easier without me in it, that he feels like he does all of the cooking and that I made him a steak once and it was “Awful, disgusting and raw”, that I treat him like a therapist with my concerns about my child and my estranged relationship with her father, he said “I know if I end things with her I will miss her which is only natural since I’m just so used to having her around”, that i basically live with him and don’t contribute to any bills or anything financially, feeling concerned if he stayed in the relationship is it bc he truly cares or is just attached to me.

He mentioned good things about me were “she does wake up before me and sometimes make me coffee” “she’s not all bad and I do care about her”. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do with this information. I also had sent him a long heart felt message apologizing about a argument we had and he copy and pasted the whole message into chat gpt and asked how to respond then basically copy and pasted the response to me.

I don’t know what to do. Our relationship in my eyes has been perfect, he treats me great and after getting out of a DV relationship I feel like I found my soulmate so this is incredibly jarring for me. I also want to add he isn’t wrong that I do basically live with him however it was his idea for this to even happen and when we discussed it he told me he doesn’t want me to pay any bills all he wants is for me to have a safe place to stay. I do cook for him and I vividly remember the night I cooked the steak and it wasn’t cooked enough and I profusely apologized about it to which he responded by telling me it was no big deal to relax and just put it back on the pan. Should I bring this up to him? Should I act like I never saw it?

TLDR; found messages my bf of 4 months sent to chat gpt complaining about our relationship that was seemingly perfect to me. He asked chat gpt to respond to a heartfelt message I sent him and then copy pasted the reply to me.

Posted Dec 8, 2025, 3:35 AM UTC · locked

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