Advice??

Hello! So I have had this Dom(he’s my first and it’s mostly online) for an about a year.. and it’s been fine ..ups and downs like any relationship I imagine. My Dom has BPD… so some days are harder than others and he really just has a hard time ..connecting ??(I don’t know if that’s the right word) with me and my emotional side. So… with all that being said here we go..

I have mentioned I think id really enjoy him being more dominant in things that weren’t sexual as well. Daily check ins, encouraging me through the day, fun tasks.. or like picking out my underwear or nail polish. I dunno , I just think I’d enjoy it.. his response was that I’m an adult, and shouldn’t need al that nonsense.. and he doesn’t really care about my nails or my underwear so he isn’t going to give an opinion… low key that upset me. He also just struggles to have compassion for things he doesn’t care about like some of my interests.. When he wants sexual things he knows how to get me going but he doesn’t always engage when I am wanting it. I feel like I have an emotional tie to this man and I’m just kinda stuck on what to do next..

Thanks 🙃