Husband is forcing me to work and I dont know what to do after being a Sahm for 10 years.

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As salamualaikum brothers and sisters. Me and my husband both 35 have been married for 10 years now with 2 elementary aged kids. My husband got laid off 3 times in the last 5 years. He doesnt have technical knowledge in the IT field but somehow landed the gig with referrals and through his close friends.

Me on the other hand has never worked. It wasnt considered appropriate in my family background to go out and earn. Look after the kids, husband , cook , clean, the husband provides and the wife takes care of kids, house, upbringing etc. All my aunts and my mom too said Alhamdulillah and spent within limits whatever the husband came home with. We were never taught to work and I grew up with this mind set. My husband already knew all this.

Now 10 years into the marriage my husband has been threatening to divorce me if I dont get myself into this IT field. I have a 4 year bachelor degree but in a completely different field and have zero knowledge of how to get started or who to ask for guidance.

He wants to me to contribute to the house. I am the one who cleans all day, drop offs and pick ups , kids doctors appnmnts, my own dr appnmnts, looking after his side of the family when they visit. He doesnt even pick his own plate after he is done eating and says he provides and I am an ungrateful wife.

He cusses me out till my ears start to bleed. How I have been surviving on his crumbs and how not even a dog would want to spend a single day with me if he threw me out of the house. He can and will cheat if dont give in to his demands anytime of the day. Since I dont contribute even 5 cents I dont have a say in anything.

There is a lot more than I can type here but ita gonna be a long post. But I have no family. My mom died when I was a kid and my dad remarried. So zero family and no support. Its draining me out coz he kept me locked up these entire years and now wants to me to make money and that too something like 100k to 150k per year.

I cannot divorce him right now because I have nowhere to go and my kids really love their dad.