Confused Af, can't get rid of overthinking 28M-27F

Relationships

I met this girl 4 months ago. I’m 28 and she’s 27. We’ve been dating for about 3 months now, and so far everything has been very smooth. Our bond keeps getting stronger day by day.

Here are the concerns I have:

She previously had syphilis (an STI), but she has fully recovered. When I asked her more about it, she opened up and told me she had only one partner in the past. I researched the infection, and everything seems fine as long as it was treated early, which it was. Her last four test results have all been non-reactive, so she has no active STI/STD.

Our Kundlis didn’t match, and since both our families are quite religious, this could become a major issue when it comes to convincing our parents.

Apart from these things, we’ve travelled together, spent a lot of time together, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. She has been very transparent about her past and everything she has gone through, which makes me trust her even more.

However, I tend to overthink things—especially the Kundli mismatch and her past STI, even though it was successfully treated.

I love her a lot.

Posted Dec 9, 2025, 8:48 AM UTC

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