DAE find the concept of angry/hate sex ridiculous and can't wrap their head around it?

basically title. how do people get horny when angry? how are you in the mood to have sex with your partner when they've upset you to the point of you being mad? why would you have sex to make up instead of having a conversation? so many questions and so few answers 😭 the last thing i want when i'm angry, especially when my partner is the reason, is for them to touch me that way.