Boundaries and mom.

I have already cut of my dad for very strict reasons, but I know I like my mom but she keeps violating my boundaries and I keep telling her over and over and she says I’m mentally abusing her. She doesn’t listen. I personally am not a fan of my grandma or aunt. Who literally laughed or did nothing when my aunts husband hit me. Never protected me. Play favorites. Shut me down and my voice. Twisted the truth.

I know my mom told them to not bother me or she will leave them completely, but I told my mom many many times to not tell them about my career and she told them. Sure they left me alone, but I need my time to heal and she keeps throwing them back at me to see and talk to. And now she’s counting on me helping them with my career somehow or some event. Now if I bring it up again, she’s going to say you’re mentally abusing me. ??? I don’t know what to do anymore. I try to be calm and stay calm about it, but then I explode. It’s like I don’t want this. She said she won’t invite them for her birthday because of how much she literally saw it bothers me, then she says “my mom changed my diaper as a child and did so many things for me, I think I want all my loved ones there.”

So now they are coming. It’s like this subtle manipulation game and it’s insulting because if she’s doing this she thinks I’m stupid. I’m tired. I have been through a lot that most don’t even know about. What can even be done anymore? I still live with her and help her financially. But I think it’s best for me to move out. But how many people can I distance myself from? How alone can I get?