(26F, married) just need to vent about my in-laws. I don’t know how to stay calm anymore.

I (26F) am married, and honestly I thought life after marriage would be peaceful. In the beginning I also believed my in-laws were good people who cared for me. But slowly, their real behaviour started showing, and now I’m at a point where I don’t even want contact with them. But because of my husband, I’m forced to maintain basic communication.

When I got pregnant, I first told my family and they were so happy. But when I told my in-laws, the first thing my MIL said was, “Should I give you something so you deliver a boy?”

I told her clearly that I don’t like such comments. She immediately said, “I was just joking.” I cried a lot that day and told my mom. When my mom called my MIL about it, my MIL lied and said, “My son doesn’t like daughters, that’s why I said that.” That was completely false — my husband genuinely loves girls and never said anything like that. Since that day, I stopped talking to her normally. My MIL, FIL, SIL, and BIL — all of them lie constantly. At home they don’t even have money for basic things like fruits, but they always talk with a superior attitude. Once my husband had a small accident. My MIL came to see him and started crying. I calmed her and said, “Don’t cry, Mom. I’m taking care of him.” And she replied, “If you were taking care of him, he wouldn’t be hurt in the first place.”

Another day she told me, “You must listen to my son in everything he says. I don’t want any complaints from you.”

There are honestly thousands of small and big incidents like this. I’m pregnant and I don’t know how to keep myself calm anymore.

I just needed to vent. Thank you if you read this.