Need advice

I’ve posted on here before about previous issues with me (f20) and my partner (m24). I’m not going to reexplain our previous issues, if you want to know background you can go look at that post.

Essentially what’s going on right now is we are trying to find a way to make sex work with us and help increase my libido. Someone on my previous post recommended having at least one orgasm before penetration, and that might help a lot.

I brought this up and he was down with it and actually seemed excited which caught me off guard based off the fact he never does any kind of foreplay. So we went out and bought 2 different kinds of vibrators on top of the one I already had.

I have been able to get myself off before, and he really wanted to use it on me so I let him try. I tried walking him through it, guiding his hand, explaining what I liked. But he couldn’t get me off.

But he still wants to keep trying. I think that the biggest issue is that he can’t feel what I’m feeling. Even when I tell him what to do (ex: that feels good, slow down, hold it right there, etc) it doesn’t seem to work. I think another issue is I really have to focus to actually get there, and even having to stop and say “do this” distracts me enough that I stop climbing, then I get frustrated because I could’ve just done it myself.

I’m not sure if this is a just mental block or physical block as well. I tried gently exploring that maybe it’s best if I just do it, and he seemed upset and said that he really wanted to get me off. I told him that I really do appreciate how he wants to do that, but it’s just not working. He seems determined to just keep trying and won’t give up which is slightly annoying.

I don’t know what to do. Advice from both male and female perspective would be appreciated.