Advice for busy hectic times

How do you maintain your dynamic when life is hectic and busy?

My parents decided to move during the busy month of December, and we're helping them. My son needs a lot of help with his homework and is going to bed later and later, leaving less time in the evenings. There are health problems in the family. My husband's work is also very busy. We're both tired and dejected.

The dynamic that gave us so much joy is gone. Three daily tasks in the obedience app are all that's left. And I hardly get any feedback from my husband on those anymore. For example, the photo he wants to receive from me every day isn't even looked at, only when I ask him he takes a look in the app, but I never get spontanious feedback.

Then in the evening, my husband suddenly decides he's up for it and spontaneously starts a scene, but for me, the foundation is simply gone. I feel unappreciated and don't have the capacity to suddenly switch to sub mode when I feel like my efforts are being ignored all day.

I don't know what I can do to make this go better. I've tried talking about it, but it all has to be quick and rushed, because we're kind of living under the weight of our current circumstances. And apparently, I'm not doing it right either, because when I say I'm missing the dynamic, my husband thinks, "Okay, I'll start a scene tonight," but the foundation just isn't right for me right now, and I don't know how to make him understand. I can't submit if my needs aren't being met at all.

Does anyone have any advice?