Need help with thoughts of other woman

First off this is my burner account......

So I'll try to give as much detail without writing a novel...

I'm married 37 with 2 kids and a wife and committed to not cheating and staying married.

I met this girl back in March 2024 she was standoffish and I didnt really pay her any mind. Any way I'm at this party really a get together nothing crazy you know cause im 36. Im holding court at the kitchen table making people laugh having a good time. Im making everyone laugh. She reaches over an touches my arm and says "you are so funny you should be a stand up comedian". Well my class clown self loved that. She is also extremely funny we parted ways. Fast forward to July 4th I meet her again, she now engaged and I'm more reserved cause she got in my head a bit and shes engaed and I'm married. Anyway shes talking to me alone, asks me to hang out with her several times during the party and even finds me slightly tipsy to tell me my favorite band is playing. So now Im definitely in my head.

Few weeks later I'm on a romantic get away with my wife and I cant stop thinking about her. I wasnt present and my wife could tell. I just blew it off and tried to play good husband the rest of the day. After a few weeks I get over and only randomly think of her (nothing sexual, just a chick i want to be around more than friends sometimes)

Over a year passes and my mutual friend her old college roommate tells me she might break off the engagement. Ever since then I cant stop thinking about her. Im infatuated with her and as cool as she is I want her out of my head. This all comes on the heels of me realizing Im not happy in my marriage and though I love my wife it was a mistake marrying her. But I am committed to her and want to stay married, even though I dont if that makes sense. For religious reason I cant divorce.

How do I get this chick out of my system. Part of me wants to talk to her and clear the air and let her know I think shes great, but it cant go any further than friends. I think it would take away the excitement of it. And make me be able to let this infatuation go. Other part of me says be a man, ignore her and focus on my wife.

Please help me get thos chick out of my head.