How do I help a depressed person who is “wrapping things up”?

REQUESTING ADVICE

My friend from college and I are very close,one of the things we bonded over was the fact that we were both depressed(I was undiagnosed). While I can say that I’ve made some progress and my family has been supportive,her situation has gotten a lot worse. She’s in a shitty job,she can’t go back home because of an abuser in her family and since she just started she doesn’t have a lot of savings.I could give her monetary support till she finds another job but she hates feeling pitied.

I do try to support her by calling her every other day and telling her it’ll be a little better in a while.She complains and I try to understand. However yesterday’s call was different. She said she was “wrapping things up”,I thought she meant her leaving her job,but no,she meant it literally.If I’m being honest that didn’t scare me,as a fellow depressed person,but I also realised that this is way beyond my capabilities to help her. I want to tell her things will get a bit better day by day but her and I both know the realities of living with this horrid monster.Shes been on medication for almost 5 years now and has changed her doctors multiple times. I don’t know what to do at this point,informing her parents isn’t an option because they’re too traditional and stuff and they’ll probably take her to a temple or something.

I need to help her urgently and safely.Should I go there in person to check on her? I don’t know,if anyone has been through and out of the “acceptance” stage,I’d like to know how to support her.

Posted Dec 10, 2025, 2:49 AM UTC

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