idk if i should break up

i’ve been in a two year long relationship. it was going by pretty well and i would say me and him love eachother. but recently since this summer everything has just gone down hill. i had the realization that me and him have never gone on a date that he has planned, i have never been bought flowers(yes bears for my birthdays), and most bare minimum things slowly stopped happening that guys would do. he never stopped loving me and its obvious because his words and affection show it, but its j been so iffy these past few months since he’s gotten busier, doesnt rlly have time to text or call, or see me and ive lowk started to forget im even in a relationship. ive talked to my friends about it and they believe i deserve better because my man has had I’ve been in a relationship for two years. For most of it, things were good and we really loved each other. But since this summer, it’s been going downhill.

I realized recently that in our entire relationship, he has never planned a single date. I’ve never gotten flowers, and even the bare minimum things slowly stopped happening. He still loves me — he’s affectionate and his words show it — but the effort hasn’t been there for a long time. Since he got busier, he barely has time to text, call, or see me. I honestly started forgetting I’m even in a relationship.

My friends keep telling me I deserve better because he has had a pattern of doing the bare minimum or repeating the same “mistakes.” I always forgave him because I loved him, but I’m so tired now. I’m tired of waiting, reminding him, and feeling like I’m the only one putting in effort.

Here’s the part I feel guilty about: I started texting another guy. He’s been giving me the attention and care I’ve been missing. When my grandpa passed away last week, I was pulling all-nighters and this guy stayed up with me without me even asking. He’s seen me multiple times this week, and has put in more effort in a few days than my boyfriend has all year. It felt good to be cared for again.

I know it’s wrong because I’m still in a relationship, but the situation made me realize how neglected I’ve felt. I still love my boyfriend, but deep down I feel like breaking up is probably the right thing… I just don’t know how to actually do it and if i should do it.