What happened? Serious Please Help

I (26M) seeing a (21F) got into something. It was heavy, so quick recap 1st date went for coffee then book store, 2nd date library / draw , and 3rd date went local downtown to walk around.

Quick background of 21F she is LATAM and her family is very controlling. They wanted to see me in person before first date, they did and were very friendly. Everything is paid for her, (taking care of her etc.) She has a job going to school etc. They always make her feel bad. (I feel bad not able to step in and defend her however she asked me not to butt in and I did what she asked)

So the problem was she didn't advise her family of where we were going next, not answering her family members phone calls. **I did not know she didnt ask to go to next location however she only asked if she can go out I didn't know about the next part Being able to go to the second location. --We went out since 12 in the afternoon, I came back to drop her off at 6:30pm, PLUS they wanted to speak to me in person.

Main Issue: Her family makes a big deal about her why not letting them know about going to the other location (we went to eat afterwards and took out time) -Mother starts making her feel bad, about everything that it is her fault, this was heartbreaking because I wanted to defend her I feel stupid and helpless. She works hard, she study's hard, very good person. 21F vents that she isnt a bad daughter then mother says "since when did I say your a bad daughter" The family tells me to take care of her and make her decisions. (In my head goes "No she is an adult she can make her own decisions")

I told 21F do defend herself that she is an adult, however she was afraid that her parents were going to be pissed or something bad happens

Conclusion: Mother stated she no longer wants to see me, that she messed it up / blew it. She is crying and she told me she really enjoys my company and likes seeing me in our dates.

I comeback to speak with her father that I want to see her again, I didnt know, I apologized if I offended in someway. Please allow me to see her but he responds by saying "It all depends on her (girl I was seeing)

I feel bad and I dont know what happened