a guy (m23) invited me (f20) as his 1+ to a work event. thoughts?

just need some advice on this. about two weeks ago, I (f20) matched with this guy (m23) on an app at towards the end of my thanksgiving break. we hit it off and talked, setting plans to meet immediately next weekend which was going to a holiday market. however, he texted me that tuesday and asked if I wanted to get coffee after he got off of work (I go to a city school and his office is right off my campus).

so we got coffee and the date lasted around 2 hours. at the end, he asked if I wanted to get coffee again. we got coffee the next day and the date nearly lasted 3+ hours. we both mentioned we had told our friends/families. keep in mind he's paid for everything. in-between the days we were not seeing eachother, we were texting/calling. I had an event I went to, and I sent him some photos of me dressed up in which he called me stunning.

on saturday, we finally went on our date. he came and picked me up at my place. we ended up going to lunch at a really nice place and once again, he paid. we had a good time and he took me back to mine, even helped me grab some stuff for my party later that evening. he gave me a small kiss at the end, and we continued to talk into the evening. on sunday he offered to cook dinner at his, in which I accepted and he said he would come pick me/get an uber.

we got coffee this week on Tuesday and he mentioned a holiday networking event. he asked me to be his 1+ and said we would pregame with his friends beforehand. I accepted the offer.

overall, I really like this guy. I think he is super sweet and defiantly want to know him more. I've had some really bad expiecnes in dating/men, and have never had a boyfriend. just a few questions.

1.) does it seem like he is looking for something casual? because based on the 1+ it does not seem that way.

2.) do you think he is lovebombing me? I personally do not think he is.

3.) is it too early for him to be asking me over? so far, we have gone on atleast 4 dates.

like I am defiantly not in love with the guy, but I really like him and need a lot of time but defiantly want to see where this goes. thoughts/advice? thank you!

Posted Dec 10, 2025, 2:56 AM UTC

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