Apparently enemies always know where I am before I know where they are

90% of my deaths in this game is to getting 5th partied by the entire enemy team who apparently spawn behind and above me at 400 meters at the worst possible time and when I'm most vulnerable engaging someone else like lemmings. And after flying for 10 minutes and making absolutely sure it's clear before I dare shoot at a single enemy. Don't know if they're covert cheaters and have enhanced spotting software or the game sucks ass. Taking out my grandpa's magnifier to look for black spots doesn't always work I don't know if they dont render at all or is it because my jet takes half the screen because you cant even adjust FOV in this game. I do remember it being easier though maybe something changed.

Don't know how to counter this. Psychic powers? Like if I knew there were 4 other jets close by I wouldn't initiate the attack.

Also my IR missiles sometimes lock from 5.8 km away, sometimes they don't even lock at 3 with clear weather