The final conversations between me (48M) and I guess my ex (43F). Enjoy the feast, you vampires of reddit! I know it's a lot of texts so there's a tldr at the bottom of my post. 

Here are the footnotes for the texts to provide some context:

1. She's assuming I went to my friend's place the night before to play/record music, I usually am there on Thurs night

2. Not sure where she's getting this idea about me being "all set" on the relationship because I didn't want to hang one night...

3. Didn't realize there's a 10 minute window you're required to respond in! This is a common tactic for her, if I don't respond she jumps to conclusions

4. Pretty sure she *was* talking about that, and is just backtracking. Again, not unusual for her to move the goalposts when she's not winning.

5. Aaaaaand that was the last I heard from her. I guess we broke up. We were supposed to go to my parents' place for Thanksgiving.

So obviously there's more to it than these texts. I can understand that she wanted to spend more time together, but it's tough when we I have 50/50 custody of my daughter and work M-F whereas my ex works Sun-Thur. But also, I feel like she could have brought that up in a more constructive way.

Is how I communicate really that bad? I was trying to focus on how I felt and not get into attack mode or make snide comments.

I will also say this: the reason I didn't want to hang out with her that night was because on Wed night we were at my place, and she announced in this really petulant, bratty way "*I* want to play charades and *you're* going to go three times in a row," like I'm some puppet for her amusement when she's bored. I said several times that I didn't feel like it but she would not. Let. Up. So I was like ok whatever, we'll do one round and she didn't even know the basic rules. Like, you start off with a category, how many words it is, first word sounds like or has x number of syllables. I tried to do the "sounds like" gesture and she kept guessing "ear." She's kind of a bully and this is just one example.

Anyway, guess I'm single again. Hope you had a better thanksgiving!

tldr: I needed a night off from my sometimes-overbearing girlfriend but it did not go over well. Discussion ensued, I tried to advocate for myself but things fell apart. She apparently hates my communication style and ghosted me days before we were supposed to go to Thanksgiving.

Girlfriend of 3 years ghosted me right before Thanksgiving (see footnotes for explanation)