First bad player experience last night

I've been playing fo76 for almost a year now,just hit level 194 yesterday. Super casual player for the most part. I enjoy doing events, putting my camp together and running around the map and doing quests. I have no real understanding of the perk cards and how they work exactly, but I have a perk build that seems to be pretty ok. My gun is nothing special, but it works for me.

Last night I was wrapping up some stuff at my camp after running around burning springs with my husband (he just started playing a couple months ago but is quickly catching me on levels!). He was at his own camp doing his nightly wrap up as well. I was just about to shut down when I noticed a lower level (65) player running around my camp. I thought I would drop some things for them, since I had quite an abundance of items including some plans and stimpacks. I was looking at my pip boy when all of a sudden I started getting attacked. Thats not uncommon, I always have molerats, scorched and mutants showing up.

I close my pip boy and what the actual fuck! This level 65 is attacking me! Not just attacking me but attacking my house as well, throwing nuka grenades or something that just was exploding everything. My husband saw what was happening and fast traveled over to defend me. As he is doing that, im dead. Then a notification says a player stole my loot bag that dropped (idk what could have been in it as I had just finished doing my scrapping and dropped everything in my stash). My husband shows up...now hes dead.

It all happened so fast, im still trying to figure out wtf happened. I got frazzled and was trying to shoot back and fix my house and take a screen shot and quit the game and run and hide and everything else all at once. I finally just logged off and shut it down for the night. I legit went to bed so pissed off and slightly devastated (I know it should be an easy fix when I get back on, but I have a very clear image of my poor camp in ruins and cant bring myself to jump on and get it back to rights just yet lol).

I did end up reporting this player to Xbox because during and even after all this happened, that player (F U asaptrilly) spammed both me and my husband with party invites.

Just sharing this to share (unless it was you that did this, then please explain wtf you were doing)/vent. Im going to go fix my camp now.

And yes, I am in pacifist mode. I've only been attacked by another player once and im fairly certain it wasnt intentional.