The girl (29F) I’m (27M) seeing right now (FWB) is sending so many mixed signals. What does she actually want?

I live in the US and she is in Canada. We met through friends a few years ago but this past year weve gotten a lot closer especially the past few months where we decided to have friends with benefits relationship that were both cool with. We usually see each other for a few days to a week every 6-8 weeks or so.

Recently though she came to visit me for a few days and right after sex one day she started crying saying she’s scared she’s going to hurt me cause she knows I like her more than as a friend. Truthfully I’m still figuring this out with my own feelings, but I’m completely content where were at right now so I have no idea what she means honestly when she shows more love towards me. We do a TON of things together and id say theryre pretty romantic but I do them because I like to do that for her because she is such a great friend at the end of the day. I cook for her, take her out to nice restaurants and bars and shows etc. she cries randomly when were out because she always says she hasnt felt this way about someone for a long time. Back to the conversation though she says she wants to date me but the distance is the only thing thats holding her back and shes had very very bad trauma from a previous marriage for so many years so shes still getting over that.. from what shes told me it was a hotrible toxic relationship. Again Im fine with where were at though. I do not want to rush but I wont rule out the possibility of officially dating her in the future. I think she may be fighting with herself internally???

She acts like I’m the one crutched on her but she’ll do things like steal my shirts and sleep with them, send me snaps of her cuddling my clothes and of herself everyday, texting me out of nowhere saying shes addicted to me, sexting me quite often. Shes indirectly told me she loves me and tried to get me to admit it one time when we were making out altho I just sort of ignored her when she said “what else do you love?” I said nothing so it got a little awkward. Idk how I feel yet im trying to suppress my feelings you know. She will even set up future dates like spa days and couples massages, one day trips to other cities and hotels, concerts together. Etc. she even convinced me to go on a two week vacation in may with her to somewhere very nice. I told my friend about all this and he said you guys are practically a couple without the label even if she doesnt want to admit it and it kinda terrified me cause it made me realize we may be moving too fast…

We do try our best to hide this relationship frm our friends altho almost all of them know by now and she cant keep her hands off of me when were around them so its pointless really.

I dont think it would be a good idea to define labels or get into a relationship so soon like this. To me id rather us do what we are doing now for a while and see what happens maybe it works maybe it doesnt. Is she just fighting with her own feelings like what on earth is going on with her? Distance is certainly the defining factor but she seems to be ignoring how she acts around me and keeps planning things to do together every single month. I think a lot of it has to do with her past relationship, truthfully.