Discarded like I Meant Nothing

Fellas,

Read this and learn if you don’t want to have your heart and soul completely destroyed by a woman who doesn’t even care and is probably already fucking someone else. My experience and thoughts on the whole thing.

So I’ve been dating this girl for just under a year. About 10 months at this point. We had one hiccup around the 6 month mark where we broke up but then got back together a week later. It’s worth noting she admitted to sleeping with a guy on tinder during this week breakup and I ultimately still took her back. That was probably a mistake cuz it was an obvious red flag… anyways, We get back together and things are going really well (I thought), another 2 months of connection and good energy. Not a single fight since we started over. I’m not lying when I say I HAD NO IDEA THIS WAS COMING.

I’m outt of town for work when out of nowhere one day she completely withdraws from the relationship. Emotionally she’s checked out, takes hours to answer texts, one word responses, avoid all my calls, only shows affection when I say it first. Like she’s being blatantly disengaged and when I ask her what’s wrong she reassures it’s nothing to do with me and she doesn’t want to talk about it. this goes on for a week and at the 7 day mark I confront her again, this time she says she doesn’t have an excuse as to why she’s treating me so bad but she doesn’t think she can give me what I need / want. And that she knows I deserve better. I tell her she needs to call me immediately or end the relationship. She says “NO” when I ask her if she’s breaking up with me. and the agrees to call later that night. Less then 2min into the phone call that night she says she can’t love me and herself at the same time and doesn’t think we should continue. Once I get mad at her and call out the way she treated me leading up to the breakup, she deflects and turns everything on me and blames me for everything, makes up blatant lies and then blocks me on everything, including my phone #..

Is this how women normally do it when they lose attraction for their BF? In my opinion, with how fast and sudden this happened.. I have a feeling she was already talking to, if not fully fucking another guy.. you don’t just end a year long relationship out of nowhere like that and not even attempt to fix it unless your already with someone else? Like she created the entire problem by withdrawing and then when I bring it up, she just ends the relationship and doesn’t even try to fix it. Once I make her feel a lil guilty she deflects and blocks me on everything. Pretty fucking cruel to a guy she supposedly loved. Idk how someone could just flick a switch and instantly go from loving to hating someone. It was terribly painful to go through.

Throughout the week long withdrawal leading to the breakup she used a number of excuses, first it was her Birth control, then she was depressed, then it was she couldn’t give me what I needed and I deserve better blah blah. I think she had already fell for another guy