I never felt groomed

A few years ago, when I was 15 (4 years ago) I started chatting with another trans girl that I shared some twitch chats with and we had a lot of things in common, we liked a lot of the same things like videos games and other interests, after like 8 months of chatting (completely platonic on both sides) we end up in a moment in which we were both single, after some flirting and sexual comments back and forth we kinda started dating (this was mid August 2022) we went on pretty good for months chatting daily staying hours in calls sharing our days and bonding, I didn’t realize at the time but I was genuinely happy for once in years and I had fallen in love with her because she was genuinely perfect, she cared about me and made me feel better when bad things happen or when I had flashes of my trauma, she started telling her friends about me and her but there was one problem, the age gap, during our relationship she was 21, for this reason she had to lie about my age because people would clearly see her as an abuser, this happened around my bday so I was 16 while all of this was happening, after this she also got stressed about something and talked to me about it and I joked about it trying to make her feel it wasn’t such a big deal and while she didn’t say it at the time she thought I was immature, two weeks after my bday she decided to break up with me, she didn’t like lying about my age she hated the distance (long distance relationship) and she felt I was immature and that I needed to grow up but that I had to do it on my own and didn’t have to push myself to grow because she didn’t want that.

Some friends and people had pointed out that the age gap makes her a groomer but I never felt like she was abusing or taking advantage of me in any way and idk how to feel cuz even if it was so long ago I still love her