31mtf, Likely to officially start stealth transitioning with E (estradiol valerate) starting jan/feb, any advice?

So yeah. I'm excited, but it comes at another cost unfortunately.. I'm Likely going to sell my car & be stuck living with family members longer than anticipated. I literally can't afford to even pay low rent with all my other expenses along with transitioning. It'll literally be years before I start if thats my route... so I'm just saying f*ck it. As long as I'm a girl, I don't give a shit anymore. My state no longer funds GAC as well, so no medicaid support.

Nothing is enjoyable after being 2 years into cracked egg territory. I can't take it anymore. It's like im faking every moment in the day in everything i do. I've been on an anti-androgen for 1.5 years, it feminized me a little bit, but nothing close to a glow up. Some people in my family know I'm trans, but I don't wear anything past neutral territory to keep them from freaking out. They think this is as far as it goes.. I don't think I'll be kicked out, but it'll definitely start a timer for when I need to exit because who knows. But this situation buys me a good 1-3 years of transitioning if I can just eat my pride.

So I guess my finals questions are: Will fem features develop quick? If I just keep wearing the same clothes I have now for another year or two, Is it like the boiling frog thing? Will no one notice who see me all the time? What do you think of my situation, would you choose transitioning over autonomy- but be stuck in boymode for much longer?