Fearful Avoidant situationship wants to be friends after 6 months of nothing

I met this FA + CPTSD girl on holidays (hawaii), we had a rapid romance that resulted in her telling me she was in love, she sabotaged pretty quickly, telling me she wanted to date another guys. Despite everything we kept in touch and planned to meet when we both got back to the US. She cancelled & delayed our plans (sabotage, eventually we met and it was good, she told me she didnt feel good enough around me and eventually ended it despite telling me she saw me as long term potential. Anyway, 6 months go by with nothing expect a couple of likes on instagram stories.

She then replies to a story of mine and when I talk about our past, she refused to engage with any emotional words, navigating the conversation with precision ensuring she does use any powerful language and dodges any question that will make her replay anything of emotional significance, she then eventually pushes for friendship, telling me she wants to keep me in her life. I told her what we shared was too powerful and I declined and wished her the best of luck.

Can anyone shed light on what was going through her head, why did she reach out after 6 months, was she planning it and how will she process my rejection of her offer? Will I likely hear from her again?

Posted Dec 29, 2025, 3:04 AM UTC

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