Can we please stop glamorizing marriage to reverts?

Salam Alaykom everyone, hope you’re all well.

Well, the title says it all.

Can we please stop glamorizing marrying reverts only vs. people that raised Muslims?

I understand that marrying either has their pros and cons, but marrying reverts only has been so glamorized for both genders. The unfortunate situation is that sometimes, as is with any marriage, things turn sour. Some of those reasons are specifically because it’s a revert Muslim.

I (F,30) have only had negative interactions with reverted brothers so far. So I just want to make it clear that marrying a revert isn’t always greener. Besides different cultures (though I’m raised fully in the West), the reverted brothers that I’ve met have been unready for marriage, haven’t taken the Islamic rulings seriously, and have ended up being not serious.

I used to be of the opinion that marrying a revert is definitely better because of how glamorized it’s been prorated, and because of my awful previous marriage to an Arab. I thought that if it’s a person who accepted Islam at an older age, then he/she will truly value it and apply it. I was wrong, and I’ve felt a need to share this with others.

I’ve also seen men who claim to be reverts simply to marry a Muslim woman, which is TERRIFYING. They have fantasies of marrying an untouched/covered woman, and infiltrate Muslim sites for this purpose.

I can’t speak about revert women concerning marriage, because my only interactions have been with men. One of my best friends is a revert, and she’s been abused in a marriage unfortunately.

But yeah… I just really had to share this.