Seeking Advice

Hey there. So I (19f) and my husband (25m) are both switches. When he’s the dom he absolutely kills it. I feel submissive, I do what he says when he says it, go out of my way to please him as well as numerous other things. When I’m the dom I feel like I slack, I feel like I’m boring by doing the same things over and over. Ex. Cage him when we do cuckolding, edge him constantly, and call him degrading names.

He brought it up to me today that some days I kill it and I do really well, others he feels forgotten and like I don’t want to be a dom. I do, I love it, I’ve just always been a sub and I’m embracing the femdom. I want him to be in a sub state of mind all the time.

A few of our rules when I’m the dom is he’s not allowed to see my coochie. That’s fun to a certain point. Sometimes I want to sit in front of him, make him eat me out then play with my toys but that breaks the “no pussy” rule. We’re not to have sex when I’m the boss, only sex with other men and that honestly kills me. He’s great in bed when he’s the dom, and lately the bull’s I’ve had over haven’t met my sexual needs.

I want to be the dom everyday, not just during sexual things. How can I make this happen? Mainly what I’m asking is for advice. I need fresh ideas, thoughts. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks guys