Cultish Behaviors

I really appreciate this subreddit for helping people who truly have problems with their behaviors around porn and such.

But let's be clear about a few things can we?

First--masturbation, in and of itself, is healthy and normal. Anyone trying to say otherwise is either a religious zealot or has drunk too much of the kool-aid of the cult that goes extreme on this.

Second--yes, I said cult. Any group that tries to get members to have one path to do anything and demands allegiance and compliance is just that--a cult. And it's equally bad to any issues people may be having in other areas.

Third--this is about behaviors--not about masturbation per se. It's just like anything--eating for example. Eating is healthy but overeating and being a glutton is not. That is unhealthy. Just like any addiction, the vehicle does not matter--it's about breaking the unhealthy addiction.

I say all this because I think there is a warped idea around the idea of masturbating, porn, and the like. I think porn, in general, is not great. It demeans people and paints unrealistic pictures of what "healthy" sex looks like. Not all, but most. I also think it can trap people into rituals that make them lazy, unhealthy, and more.

But I think if you masturbate on a regular basis with healthy outlets (like people), it can be just fine like any other activity. Moderation is the key.

So please do yourselves a favor and don't try to stop one unhealthy thing you have in your life with going to another extreme that isn't reasonable and ultimately can be more unhealthy. Feel free to dm or reach out to talk. Flames will be ignored.