Creating a feminine me

Recently I got a comment from my bf during an argument that he “wants someone that’s feminine”, apparently I’m not it but it’s not as though I’m “masculine”. I’m tall, like 6’ so we barely have a height difference which is fine by me. I’ve always done sports so I’m naturally more muscular though I’ve lost weight in the last year due to stress and just less of an appetite. I can admit I don’t groom my body hair as often and because of an issue with our plumbing at the house we both don’t shower as often as we’d like. (That will be changing as I’m starting to go back to the gym for workouts vs just showering.) I don’t know if I’m just lacking in other traits beyond caring what my body hair is.

Now obviously femininity is beyond the surface but I thought I’d ask what other femme people might use to define their femininity?