Serious Question, why do Poly/ENM largely try to get people onto their side but rarely, if ever, seek out someone who aligns with their ideas?

It wasn't poly

You didn't find the right one

You need to try again

Its what straight people do

You're too young to understand

It should be okay to have sex when you're away cause who else do I have access too?

It makes "our relationship" better!

Sex isn't emotional (till it is) but fun! Even though my partner doesn't want to know and neither do I!

Read the Ethical Slut

I'm lonely

Fucking UGH! I've heard it all and everytime I hear this being hurled at me I want to fucking puke! Apparently my personal ten year experience being this way and gaslit by my ex husband and made fun of by his degenerate friend who can't keep a job (up too and including, being Madonnas personal hairdresser I shit you not!) who was a therapist and used his techniques against me in that lifestyle means nothing because "this time, it'll be different with me as opposed to him because I've done this before *successfully with my ex who broke up with me over the same things! *

Why don't these fuckers ever date OTHER poly people and LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE!? Why is it such a radical idea to do that? Is it the harsh reality that because they know the true ins and out of the lifestyle and what it means to be poly and ultimately the harsh truths of dealing with their reflections? These people want the stability and benefits of monogamy but not the work - but you tell them to find someone who wants open/poly and suddenly it's fucking rocket science