D&C vs pills: how did you decide?

Hi everyone,

I am likely facing a confirmed MMC this Wednesday (my post history explains everything. I’m trying to prepare myself for the appointment by thinking avoid my decision between pills or a D&C, and I’m just not sure.

Regarding the pills:

I have had two very painful early losses at 5w before, and I don't think I can handle that physical pain again. Being a midwife, I've also seen too many cases where the pills fail, leading to a D&C surgery anyway. On top of that, I have PTSD and night anxiety. Waiting for it to happen at home in our brand new house we moved to last week feels like a nightmare scenario.

Regarding the D&C:

It feels like the better option for my mental health, but I am scared of it being viewed by the doctor as not warranted in my case, since it’s still early. I’m also nervous about the anesthesia (I’ve only been under once, and I threw up a lot afterwards) and potential scarring in my uterus.

I need your stories to help me decide.

• If you chose the D&C, was the recovery hard? Did you have any complications?

• If you chose pills, was the pain manageable?

• Would you make the same choice again?

Thank you so much in advance 🤍