My gf convinced to watch the series, i hate everyone, help me get through it

I'm only at the 12th episode of the first season but it's becoming really bad how annoying all the characters are.

Damon is a fucking psychopath but for whatever reason he always gets spared or just by pure luck saves himself. I guess he is hot so he gets a pass for the killings and the rape (yeah, having sex with mind controlled people is rape)

Stefan, my man spent 10 minutes telling Vicky how she is unstable, she has to be kept under control, ecc.. and right after that he decides to leave her alone with Helena. Good job!

Helena was fine, but then decided to save Damon while Lexi's boyfriend was killing him. Cool, you are saving a serial killer who also sexually abuses women and guess what happens next? He kills another person, the bartender.

I don't want to talk about the other ones because i could write a book, i guess Matta is fine and Bonnie is definitely cool. But these are the main characters??? God damn. Please tell me that things will improve, that Damon will get killed, that Helena will grow a brain and Stefan will stop being an idiot.

Do you have some non-spoilers things to say that will actually give me hope?