Who here still believes in consideration for their apartment neighbours?

Hey everyone! I’m sure this will be a charged question after holiday chaos, but I’ve had some convos with friends lately that have got me thinking. If you live in an apartment, do you care about building community (or at least basic consideration/communication) with your neighbours, or do you have more of an “everyone for themselves” mentality?

This is very anecdotal, but I’ve felt over the past decade or so with the condofication of Toronto that people seem to expect the same peace & privacy in an apartment that you would get in a detached home - and also expect all the same freedoms for themselves around doing whatever they want whenever they want.

I’ve been apartment living in various places my whole adult life (younger millennial here) and I’ve always considered the people who live in my building to be somewhere between neighbours and roommates. We may have separate units, but we share the same outdoor space, laundry facilities, and vents! It seems like the very least I can do to keep my neighbours in mind when it comes to volume, activity during sleeping hours, and laundry timing. Not to mention I genuinely like the aspect of looking out for the people around me - in my current place I have a few great relationships and I don’t find it any trouble to catsit or water plants when needed. They do the same for me.

So anyway! What does everyone in Toronto want or expect out of their apartment neighbours? Do you find it annoying when they try and get to know you, or do you wish you lived in a building with more friendly faces? Do you generally keep your neighbours in mind when you go about your life, or do you have a more antagonistic relationship (and this could very well be a ‘they started it’ scenario)? Have you tried to build community with neighbours and it’s never worked? I’m very curious about everyone’s renting experiences in this city!