Oh the manipulation..

We’ve always had custody of SS for the first week of Christmas. BM gets the second week. BM doesn’t really celebrate Christmas. She has a tree and he gets a couple of gifts but that’s it. Majority of the time she doesn’t get SS what he asks for and on a few occasions the gifts she has given have been more suited to his younger brother, rather than him. There’s no Christmas movies, no Christmas activities, no Christmas traditions or visiting family with BM. It makes sense that he stays with us for Christmas as we’re big on the celebration.

BM always agrees to this custody schedule and doesn’t argue with us over it. We know why she always requests the second week instead. She attends a New Year’s Eve party every single year and SS, being the eldest, takes care of the children whilst all the adults get black out drunk, sing karaoke and play games.

However, BM of course tells SS a completely different version of events.. all week we’ve had messages and phone calls about how much she misses him and how she wishes she can spend Christmas with him. She says the same thing, hopefully your dad lets me spend Christmas with you next year. So she plays the blame game, repeatedly makes out she’s a victim as she cannot stand up to his dad (ha) and then guilts SS about him not seeing her, like it’s his fault? Every year he comes to us and says maybe I can spend it with her next year? Well it comes around and she DOESN’T want to because she wants the second week instead. I told SS straight, your BM asks to spend the second week with you and says we can have the first week because we’re big on the Christmas celebration, whereas she isn’t, we have the confirmation in a text message if you want to see it.