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I started talking to this girl I met on hinge in November. We talked for a week and then she asked me on a date. The date went really well, we kissed and started making out later on the date too. A day later she ended up texting me saying she didn’t know if her feelings were romantic enough for me. We ended up texting 24 hours later and she said she thinks she’s asexual but wants a relationship with me. We started talking again, went on more dates. She got me a Christmas gift and I got her some. I went to her apartment on the 22nd and we exchanged gifts. She later asked me to be her girlfriend. This is the sweetest girl I have ever met. I’ve never genuinely felt more admired and appreciated by someone ever. We both really really like each other. On Saturday she texted me out of nowhere that she doesn’t think she’s in a place where she can be in a relationship. Her message sounded kinda unsure and happened while she was at work. She hasn’t texted anymore since and I’ve tried calling her and everything. She unfollowed me on both accounts and logged out of my paramount account that I was letting her use. Her parents came down for the holidays and before she texted that message she went out to brunch with them. I don’t know if something happened and I’m worried because her parents don’t know she’s gay and she has a strained relationship with them. I don’t think this was planned at all, I know I may sound naive, but she recently bought us something couple related, talked about meeting my best friend on new years, and just told her brother about me, someone she’s super close with. I don’t know if she got cold feet. She recently met my mom and I kept raving about how much my mom likes her. She could truly just not be ready for a relationship but I don’t know and she won’t answer me. I’m scared something happened. I had a similar situation happen in October with a girl I was talking to who said she wasn’t that interested after talking over the summer. But in my gut this feels different and I’m worried for her.

Posted Dec 29, 2025, 8:00 PM UTC

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