How come every girl I know has a boyfriend, were can I go were there’s more single girls

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I’m 28M and the last girlfriend I had was last year she was 32F. But prior to her I didn’t have a lot of luck with finding girls to go out with. And for years I felt angry because of constant rejection and I was felt like a loser like I was a worthless person. And I literally would try to tell people but I felt like no amount of advice and I tried to do everything they said. Like be yourself, be nice and humorous. But it never got were I wanted. And also because of the constant rejection, I started pushing my anger out word. It’s feelings that I now feel a lot of regret toward. I hate to admit it, but I literally head deep-seated resentment toward women, my age. And I feel like the whole system was rigged against me. And I I felt a sense of entitlement to. I wasn’t raised to believe these theories nobody taught it to me. It came by myself. Like I always have these questions that I’d be asking why would she say yes why wouldn’t she go out with me? And looking back on it, I feel it destroyed me to a level because it wasn’t the woman’s fault. They didn’t do anything personally to me. But it was just the constant anger and constant getting told no no matter how much should I put out there. It made me reflect on my self-worth. And there were times in the past, where if I found out the girl had a boyfriend or that she said no, I would unfriend her and cut off ties with her. Even if she never did anything bad to me prior, it’s just it was too much to take.

But now I feel I’ve softened a lot on the rhetoric I was putting out. I’m not angry at women for saying no to me anymore and I have deep regrets for feeling this for years. Butit wasn’t until like last year when I finally told myself, I can’t think like this anymore. I was living under this rock for 5 years. But one things for sure and this is not anger or hatred. But it’s still something that I don’t get like super annoyed anymore. Like I’m not the type with I find out she has a boyfriend or she rejects me. I never wanna talk to her again or have any contact with her like I don’t feel that deep entitlement anymore. But I still get triggered sometimes not in a way that makes me lose it. But more at myself. And I just wanna know it’s like it just seems like how come it’s like the majority of women have boyfriends. Like sometimes it doesn’t drive me crazy but it’s a disappointment you know if I think it would be a disappointment for anybody. I find out we have a lot of the same things in common, same interest, same hobbies, and then, right as I ask her out, I find out she has a boyfriend. Like, I literally feel like the number of women who are taken out numbers the women who are single. Like I go to bars try to strike up conversations with a girl, and then I find out she has a boyfriend. Or to many men keep creeping in. And no, I’m not gonna go back to using dating apps. Simply because every time I use them, I use probably every single dating app there was imaginable. From tinder to bumble, Cupid, and every single one of them I get like maybe three or five likes. Well, all my other friends who used them would get 20 likes. Like I wonder, where is there a place I can go or is it just a matter of luck. Like, is there any singles clubs for people my age or where can I go where I can increase the likelihood that I can find more women who are single.

Posted Dec 29, 2025, 8:01 PM UTC

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