Newly married and already struggling — is this normal?

Hi everyone. I (F21) and my husband (M20) got married recently in June 2025. I know the comments will come about being young or marrying too soon, but I’m really just looking for advice, not judgment.

We had a stable and happy relationship before marriage, and the first few months were genuinely great. However, around the 6-month mark, things started to feel off, and I’m not sure whether this is a normal adjustment phase or something more serious.

It started with small things — my husband getting disproportionately angry over minor issues. For example, if I ask him to take me to a store and parking is limited, he’ll get angry and say we’ll come back later, even though parking nearby is possible. I know it’s a small example, but the level of anger feels unnecessary and often escalates into arguments when I react emotionally.

I’ve tried to communicate and work through issues. For instance, when I clean, I’d really appreciate him picking up after himself so the space stays tidy for a bit. He thanks me for cleaning, but I still end up cleaning up after him, which leaves me feeling frustrated and unheard.

What confuses me most is that he asks me to talk to him about things, but when I do, he often ignores me or responds poorly, which makes me feel shut down.

Another layer to this — which may or may not be marriage-related — is that I feel unable to pursue my career goals right now due to financial constraints. This has been affecting my mental health, and I’ve started to feel resentment. I don’t feel my husband has the same level of ambition or proactive drive that I do, and I struggle when he talks about future plans without taking steps toward them.

I understand these issues may sound minor on their own, but they’re piling up. I find myself becoming increasingly irritable and nitpicking, and some days I feel deeply in love with him, while other days I feel resentful and emotionally exhausted.

Is this a normal phase of early marriage, or a sign of deeper incompatibility? Any advice would be appreciated.