45 [M4F] #SanJose CA - nice older dad looking for a long-lasting relationship and physical connection too

I'm a nice older guy and a dad hoping to find more than a hookup or FWB. I'm okay with a 20 year age gap. Both of us may be attracted to each other because we want physical intimacy, but I hope we'll get to know each other and have an emotional connection too. That means we can be ourselves and say what's really on our mind and what we're feeling. We'll enjoy each other whether hanging out or making out. When it comes to physical intimacy, I'm safe, clean and disease-free, and I won't judge you if you're not sexually experienced. I hope we eventually won't use condoms so we can have deeper intimacy.

I'm mostly white but I accept all races, and you don't have to be a model. Of course we should share some attraction to each other but it's not the most important part of our relationship. I'm tired of going from one superficial chat to the next and being ghosted. It would be nice to find something a little more secure if we could ever reach the point where we've bonded enough that we decide to be there for each other even when things get boring. If you live in the South Bay area like San Jose, Santa Clara, Saratoga, Campbell, Milpitas, Sunnyvale, or Los Gatos, that would be ideal.