Intimacy and RSD

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD in my 40’s. I’ve learned that hyper sexuality is a characteristic in some people. This is an issue I’ve been afflicted with my entire life. I’m often ashamed that my desires are greater than my partners.

My sex drive does not match my husbands and it has created stress and anxiety in our relationship. We are intimate 2 times a week, but I want more. I’m often left feeling rejected and the RSD kicks in and I get in my mind that he must not find me attractive. I know I’m being ridiculous, but it’s still a nagging feeling. He assures me this isn’t the case.

I’m on SSRI and am seeking therapy, couples and individual. I’m hoping this may help us create boundaries and be able to safely communicate our needs.

I want to find a way to lower my libido. I’m even at a point where I want to go on birth control. Any suggestions? knitting? solitaire? Advice?