AIO I borrowed my boyfriend’s phone for 30 seconds — and it ended our relationship

so i found out why he never lets me use his phone

not even gonna apologize for looking because honestly fuck that

my phone was dead, we were at his place and i needed to text my sis. asked for his phone. he did this weird pause thing before handing it over. should've been my first clue i guess

opened messages to find her contact

saw a pinned chat at the top. no name just ❤️

literally felt my stomach drop

i know i should've stopped there but cmon. you would've looked too

clicked it. last text was from like 10 min ago. we were literally watching netflix when he sent it

kept scrolling and oh my god

basically im the "safe option" the one he actually wants to marry or whatever. shes the fun one. the one he cant quit.

theyve been fucking for 8 months

EIGHT MONTHS

while he told me he loved me while my parents had him over for dinner
while we were looking at apartments online

i just sat there. could barely breathe. trying so hard not to let my face show anything

he looks over all casual like "you good?"

i fucking smiled and said yeah im fine

finished the whole night like nothing happened. even kissed him goodbye. went home and stared at my ceiling till 6am

next morning i didnt scream at him or anything

i messaged her

just "hey we need to talk about"

she replied in under a minute

we talked for hours. he told her completely different shit than he told me. were both just getting lied to

neither of us knew about the other

he still doesnt know that i know

and the weird part? im not even that upset anymore. just numb i guess

do i confront him or do i wait and plan this out first?

idk what to do and i cant talk to anyone irl about this without losing my mind