Some bullets and some paragraphs - a guide to playing with me!

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The basics

Hi, and welcome to my profile! It's organized in two parts: this first bit tries to be quick and easy to read, and the second bit goes into more nuanced detail. Read at least the first bit before messaging, please.

Anyway! My name's Marie. I'm a pretty successful-if-boring white-collar worker in my mid-30s, from the US east coast, and I use this account pretty much exclusively for kinks and sexual fantasies. I'm definitely on the spectrum...uh, somewhere. I'm transgender, but I transitioned a very long time ago, so it's mostly in the rear-view mirror in the non-sexual parts of my life. It plays a larger role in my sexuality a lot of the time; I have complicated feelings on sexualizing it directly (see details below).

My IRL sexual preference is (almost exclusively) for women, but my orientation is a bit complicated because I have a kink both for orientation play (lesbian -> straight)/gender stuff (see detail section). I'm happy to play with men as kink partners regardless.

I almost always play single sessions of 2+ hours, and my usual post length is somewhere between a few sentences and a couple of paragraphs. I default to first-person present, which is a fairly strong but not hard preference; I am okay with third-person literary past for the right play.

Things that are 🟢🟢 essential 🟢🟢 for me:

A partner that knows what they like and can articuate what it is and why.
A dominant, or at least dominant-leaning, partner.
Strong English writing. This is more than fluency, it's expressiveness and complexity.
Real-time, responsive play, almost always within one session. (I like having long-term partners when we're compatible, but long-term play sessions don't work for me.)

Things that are 🟢 positives/likes 🟢 for me:

Internal tension. The conflict between feelings, body, identity, urges, etc. is very sexy to me.
Complicated, nuanced forms of consent.
(Physical) Transformation, usually (complete) animal TF, but sometimes gender or inanimate or something weird.
Mind control/mental changes. It's TF for the mind.
Pet play (but usually not alone unless it's got a really interesting idea).
Fruits that begin with the letter B included in opening messages.
OOC interaction. Tell me how you feel and what you like during play!
Pregnancy/breeding.
Trad gender roles/orientation play (being made straight, not gay). Not a thing I really believe in, but fun to play. See detail section.
Fetishizing my trans status, sometimes. See detail section.

Things that are 🔴 negatives/dislikes 🔴 for me:

A focus on sex, "sluttiness", bimbos, or especially traditional "fetish" stuff. Sex is OK as part of a kink story but should not be the point.
People who try to be way too familiar or theatrical in initial messages. Just talk like a normal person, we're adults here.
Strongly negative framings for what's happening to me. Embarrassment, submission, powerlessness good. Being sneered at, called worthless bad. I'm a sub, not a masochist.
Related to previous bullet, gross/taboo focus. Just doesn't do anything for me and is usually a turnoff.
Identity death/complete personality rewrites.

Things that are 🔴🔴 dealbreakers/limits 🔴🔴 for me:

Anyone right wing. Fuck all the way off, fascists, I genuinely hate you and wish you one ounce of the harm you've done to people I love.
Any form of trying to have me domme or become highly sexually aggressive in any way.
Multi-session play. It never works.
Highly "creative writing/worldbuilding focused" players who are mostly interested in RP for the writing (and not as a form of fantasizing). If you aren't sure if this is you, see the detail part below.
Pain. Sub, not masochist.
A focus on real-world people or references.
Incest, revenge plots, corruption.
Musk, feet, odors, and other "gross" play.
Scat/pee, gore, anything illegal.

<<END OF THE NECESSARY BASICS PART - you don't have to read further unless you need more detail or you're looking for clarity on a bullet that says to look down here>>

On decisiveness: I like partners who know what they like, and I don't mind you being upfront in your initial message as long as you're not totally ignoring the post you're replying to or the things I've said I don't like in this profile. I know some people, men in particular, are reluctant to just spit it out, but I find it really frustrating when you don't and am not offended if you do. Better to lay it out and see if we have good overlap to start.

I'm also a sub, which means I tend to respond well to feeling like my partner is horny and interested and turned-on (within reason). The more you're asking me to spell out every detail of what I want, the less excited I am, because I don't enjoy being in charge of the situation. Explore things you like, see what I respond to, and follow those threads.

On transformation: transformation is my #1 kink. What could be more helpless than losing control even over my own flesh? Most of my transformation fantasies are complete changes into an animal or some sort of sexualized object (often a sex doll). Anthro/partial TFs tend to be less interesting to me. I also like including changes specifically to my genitals in a lot of scenarios, finishing off my transition in a way that can entangle with gender, orientation, pregnancy, and other kinks listed here.

The key to transformation for me is the idea that what I am dictates, well, what I am. My new form locks me into some new life, usually permanently, and it makes that new life "concrete" and "real".

Most of my other kinks are, in a sense, transformative. Mind control, orientation play, and my love for internal tension all come from this as my root "ur-kink", and the more I feel like I can feel like I'm different or changing or reassigned or molded into something new, the better.

On tension and odd consent dynamics: A lot of kinky fantasies fall into one of two groups. Either an evil moustache-twirling dom does something horrible to a begging sub, or the sub is 100% willing and eager to become a dumb bimbo slut. I can enjoy these kinds of fantasies, but my favorites are in between.

The issue is that full non-con requires the dominant character to be an asshole and running away screaming the only reasonable thing I can do as a sub. On the other hand, fully consensual scenarios can be fine too, but they often lose the "thrill" of helplessness.

My favorite scenarios lie somewhere between these things: some kind of consenting, or at least not actively resisting, but struggling and tsundere about it at a minimum. A few concrete examples:

Having my mind read in such a way that my subconscious urges betray me to "consent" even if my consciousness doesn't
Having internal urges or instincts implanted or changed, so that they work their way out to changing me
Consenting to some initial step, but finding myself in way over my head as things go much further than I expected
Fully wanting and agreeing to the change, but still being embarrassed and having to do a lot of adjusting to what's happening to me.

Internal tension can extend to the dominant party, too - is it really okay to be doing such a horrible thing to someone? How would it feel to watch something horrible, but consensual, happen to someone because it turns you on? That's interesting to explore!

Posts like this might give some idea of what I mean.

On mind control: I'm really not very into hypnosis, especially in the "swinging watch and count down from 10" sort of way. I prefer something more mechanical, invasive, technological, or otherwise subtle/forceful. Something like a chip in my brain that can intercept certain signals, or a new body driving new instincts, are much more fun to me.

On fetishizing trans stuff: this is a recent kink for me. It extends broadly from my transformation kink (as a transformation I've actually undergone) and most of what I like about it seems related to that. I'm OK discussing some ideas, but my limits here are harder to define.

I've often liked:

People who enjoy it as a sort of self-emasculation
Enjoying the idea of how my new body is so fundamentally different from my old one
Tying it in with gender-role stuff (okay I'm a cliche sometimes, sue me)

I usually don't like:

"Best of both worlds" / focus on my dick as a male feature
"Taboo" / forbidden framings.

On creative writing/worldbuilding focused players: This is a type I attract a lot, because I obviously write well and care about detail and interesting ideas. But I write as a means to an end. RP for me is about fantasizing about a thing that turns me on so that I can get off to it and feel good. All the exploration and interesting feelings and worldbuilding and such is in service of that.

Creative writers don't mesh well with me because:

They want to play a character, I want to play with "you" (inclusive of some fantasy in-character version of you)
They want long-term sessions that take weeks or more to finish a story. I almost always lose interest in anything that goes that long.
They often want me to spell out every detail of what I want. I dislike that because I'm a sub and don't want to be in charge, because (if you can't tell) my likes are kind of hard to completely articulate, and because it takes forever and results in never actually playing.

I've had this sort of person tell me they're totally fine playing short-term, and it never works - not because they can't pick up the pace, but because they don't want the things I want. This never, ever works, it results in a million hours of wasted time, and usually ends with us yelling at each other because our expectations are totally misaligned, which is why this is a dealbreaker for me no matter how well we match otherwise unless you can give me a damn good reason to think that won't happen with you.

If you have elaborate sci-fi/historical/fantasy settings, have persistent characters you play between stories with elaborate personal plotlines, or are way into GMing TTRPGs, you're probably in this group, and we probably aren't a match.

On an over-focus on sex: I'm not totally repulsed by sex itself, but it isn't that interesting to me. Maybe I'm some form of ace, maybe it's trans repression stuff, maybe it's the 'tism, maybe I just associate it with low-effort saw-it-in-porn style play, but I just don't like it.

This includes a big class of stuff: latex, bimbofication, anything with the word "slut", hucow or petplay with no transformation and a focus on just human sex characteristics, expansion, big-titted whatever, hyper, tight clothing, confident, assertive sexuality, and a bunch of other things.

Basically, if it's something a normal person would recognize as a fetish that isn't weird...I probably am just not into it.

On pregnancy, breeding, and trad gender roles: Okay, yes, I'm a stereotype, I know. Look, I didn't choose to care about being a gender whose major social associations are being barefoot in the kitchen, or to be raised in such a conservative environment that that stuff is deeply embedded in my subconscious. Most of the time this is some mix of power dynamics and gender validation, which makes including pregnancy a natural extension.

By this I don't mean just the act of being impregnated, I mean the process of pregnancy itself (and sometimes even giving birth, though that's a more edge-case kink for me). Fits in with general gender-related kinks, but this is actually something I would want to do if I were capable of it, too. It sounds magical. I squirm every time I daydream about it in passing, and I get so, so jealous of pregnant women out on the street. It's a thing.

On negative framings: this is a bit hard to explain. I like embarrassment and helplessness and being trapped. But I like them partly because they put me in a position to be a good version of whatever I've become. So if I'm transformed, I'm appropriately fitting my new role, rather than being "corrupted" or damaged. I'm good at being what I've been made, even if I don't want to be.

When that's instead framed as "look what a worthless cow you are", that just feels bad. I want to be enjoyed for the ways in which I've been reduced!

Did you really get all the way down here? You're pretty dedicated. Neat.

Posted Dec 31, 2025, 8:31 AM UTC